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Using Hypnotic Language on Your Boss

One of the questions I am often asked when people find out that I possess a senior qualification in hypnotherapy practice is “Can you hypnotise anyone, to do anything?” Sadly the answer is no. Not “anyone” and not “anything” but that equally doesn’t mean no one or nothing! So knowing that you have the potential… READ MORE

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Step by Step – Making Goals a Reality

To avoid total overwhelm, whatever the challenge you face, you must take it one step at a time. If you continually look at the bigger picture and overall aim you run the risk of overwhelming yourself into frightened-bunny-in-the-headlights mode. The problem with frightened bunnies in the headlights is that they freeze, making themselves a prime… READ MORE

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Broken Hearts

I’m writing this article on the advice of Beckiola, the office elf. She thought it would make a good subject as she has recently experienced a relationship break-up. Here are some of the key things to remember and do in break up situations to help you get you through to the other side: Change location.… READ MORE

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Your Future Has Arrived

I was recently speaking for the inner circle group at Unlimited Success. The lovely group of people are supporting each other in achieving their goals. At the end of the session, I had the pleasure to listen in on the “hot seat”. This is when each delegate has the opportunity to talk about a problem… READ MORE

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Elegant Arguing

I saw a post on Facebook today which made comparison between the amount of money a pensioner receives each week, and the amount of benefits given to an illegal immigrant each week. Now don’t freak out, I’m not about to start getting political. But there was something about the argument that was put forward in… READ MORE

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Tips to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

A great deal of anxiety that human beings experience is illogical and even for the patient who realises that fact consciously, it isn’t enough to cause it to stop. Enough is Enough Essentially the shift in mindset that needs to occur within the patient is one that causes them to decide and truly believe that… READ MORE

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A Third of the Way…

I figured to might live into my 90’s and that makes me about a third of the way through my life. There’s actually bits of my life now that happened so long ago, it’s almost like a story about someone I used to know, rather than about me. And I’ve got that thing that happens… READ MORE

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Drama

You need drama in your life. You need it because if you do not have it, you’ll go off and unconsciously create it in the worst possible ways. Finding problems that do not exist, manifesting illness, causing rows and arguments. If you do not create your drama in your life that motivates, inspires and drives… READ MORE

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Offended

You know I never wanted to become that person that says “There comes a point in life when…” because I heard so many adults say that when I was younger. It was a sure sign that they were old and I was young. The ….’s at the end of the sentence above are space for… READ MORE

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Rewards

These days we are bombarded with rewards. There was a time when rewards were for children and stickers on a star chart but now rewards have crept into the adult world. Sainsbury’s, Tesco’s and Boot’s all reward me for shopping with them. If I buy an offer online, I am sometimes rewarded with a bonus.… READ MORE

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Letting Go and Moving On

Sometimes us human beings are so shaped and influenced by our will and desire to succeed and make good of every situation that life throws at us, we forget that there is a real reward and skill in letting go and moving on. It’s as if letting go and moving on is giving up. And… READ MORE

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Getting Help

I don’t like asking for help. I’ve realised that recently after having problems with my next door neighbour. My challenge around asking for help (I have psycho-analysed) has something to do with me being: a)    Independent from a young age b)   A bit shy sometimes (yes me!) c)    A dislike of admitting I can’t do… READ MORE

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Coping with Grief

Wikipedia states that: Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioural, social, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement often refers to the… READ MORE

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Spontaneity

If you’ve ever read a book The Yes Man (seen the film which isn’t nearly as good) you’ll know a thing or two about being spontaneous. For those of you who are unfamiliar with it, it is the story of a man who decides to say “yes” more often and the journey that follows as… READ MORE

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Go Outside

I’ve noticed something. People with problems spend too much time inside. I don’t mean that they don’t get enough fresh air (though that will hardly do any harm.) I mean inside their own heads. People who worry are inside their heads all the time. They are having a chat with themselves about all the things… READ MORE

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How to Reduce Stress

A life without any stress whatsoever would be dull! Stress is our natural way to respond to challenges in life. However, a lot of the stress in our lives is unnecessary and can easily be eliminated by taking a few simple steps… The first step is to identify what causes you stress. Take 10 minutes… READ MORE

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Realistic

I set a goal, I worked towards it. I stuck a visual representation of it on my dream board. I imagined achieving it every day and felt the feelings I would have felt if I had achieved it. I lived like I’d already done it and each new day further action to get me there… READ MORE

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7 Things That Stop You

1) You tell yourself you do not have enough (fill in the gap). The gap could be time, money, support, intellect, skill. You get the idea. A very talented speaker I know once said to an audience of 6000 people “If you suddenly had to find an extra £10,000 in the next two weeks could… READ MORE

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Streamlining

Over the last few months I have been looking at ways in which to get my work slicker and easier to manage. This has included set blocked times for therapy, shortening the newsletter and podcast and hiring someone to take on some of the work. Another idea I have had is to link the podcast… READ MORE

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New Year, New Rules

I recently had a coaching session in which I was talking about some new ideas for my business. During the session I asked the coach what I should pay in commission to a sales person (I wanted to know if there was a basic acceptable rate) and to my surprise he said “It’s up to… READ MORE

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The Focus of Your Energy

It’s relatively logical to assume that wherever you direct your energy, there will be increase and growth. The challenge is directing that energy towards the things that you want to grow, and not the things that are bothering or irritating you. Perhaps you have had some sort of negative experience in the past that caused… READ MORE

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Using Your Voice

Having spent the weekend coaching public speakers, it makes sense for me to talk about something a little public speaker-ish! So I’d like to introduce you to a charismatic AVK sequence. NLP highlights how people can have preferred sensory preferences. Some people are visual and like to receive information and learn from what they can… READ MORE

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Making Effective Decisions

Having the ability to make decisions (and stick to them once they have been made) is an incredibly rewarding ability if viewed from the correct perspective and if separated from stubbornness. When you make decisions for yourself, you are telling the rest of the world that you posses a degree of certainty, conviction and self… READ MORE

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Independant Minds Are Happy Minds

Recently I’ve been working with a child who was having some troubles with eating her lunch at school. Right before lunch time she would feel hungry, then upon arriving at the canteen she would lose her appetite. She said she felt the canteen was dirty and uncomfortable and she just didn’t want to eat when… READ MORE

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Stay Motivated to Lose Weight

Weight loss clients are by far the trickiest clients to help (in my opinion) because no matter what work you do to change their attitude and feelings towards food, they still have to wait to see the real results- the decrease in their size and shape. The fact that this doesn’t occur over night, can… READ MORE

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Moving When You’re Stuck

Something I regularly tell those who are experiencing a dip in their levels of motivation is that in order to be motivated, you must be moving. It’s a bit of a shame really that one cannot go full throttle from a stationary position, but if you think about it, nothing ever really does. Even the… READ MORE

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Anxiety-The New Stress?

I’m not too sure how long ago it was when the word “stress” seemed to arrive in the English language like a fashion accessory that everybody had, but it seems to me that there is currently a new trend of those presenting the problem of anxiety. I have around 5 patients at the moment who… READ MORE

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Brain Trauma from Negative Emotions

I’m writing this having just planned the podcast for this week. The topic for this week’s podcast is Dirk Hamer Syndrome. If you haven’t heard of this before, I strongly recommend looking it up. It is a truly fascinating subject. The key thing that strikes me when reading about this subject- and I have not… READ MORE

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Feel Some “Never Again”

Over the weekend I attended an advanced NLP training course where Richard Bandler and John La Valle were both teaching. Lots of the course was made up of content previously at Practitioner and Master Practitioner level, but it was well worth attending just for the snippets of NLP gold that effortlessly fall from Richard Bandlers… READ MORE

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Standing Up To Bullies

I remember, prior to the start of the war in Iraq, hearing Tony Blair speak about the reasons why, in his opinion he felt that we should take on Sadam Hussain. I know it’s a raw subject, and probably one that I should not delve into-as opinions on the war and Tony Blair are divided… READ MORE

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Knowing me, Knowing You.

What, if we could iron all our ego problems to seek an absolutely peaceful and harmonious ambiance around us? Well, this is not a utopian concept. In most of the corporate and non corporate organizations, the recent demands are for those, who possess technical dexterity, management expertise, inventiveness, fervor, communication skills, self-reliance and self-impetus. In… READ MORE

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Major Catastrophic Events

If I’m honest, I always shudder a little when I set out to write an article such as this one. The main reason is that whilst at this moment in time, the words I am writing will make perfect sense, I also know that there will be a time when they come back to haunt… READ MORE

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10 Things to Make 2009 Great for Your Mind, Body and Spirit

Mind 1. Self hypnosis each day Keep your mind trim by giving it a chance each day to rest and properly process information. Those who practice self hypnosis each day, insist that they feel better for doing so, claiming to have more energy and focus afterwards and achieve their goals with greater ease as the… READ MORE

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