There’s a quiet pressure that creeps in for so many of us – particularly those who have been doing the inner work for a long time. You start thinking, almost accusingly: “I should be further along by now.” It’s a […]
Why Your emotions explode just when change begins to work
You ever get the feeling that the moment you finally start making progress – that’s when your emotions blindside you? It’s a strange and painful irony, isn’t it? You do the hard work, you make a change you’re proud of, […]
The Third Skill No One Warned Me About in Self-Employment
I remember the day I left the safety of my regular pay cheque and stepped into the unpredictable world of being self employed. Up until then, I’d worked in childcare – employed, structured, predictable. But when I completed my NLP […]
Do Things Really Get Worse Before They Get Better?
Do Things Really Get Worse Before They Get Better? I did a consultation the other day – something many of our practitioners offer for free to people considering one-to-one sessions. I asked the client whether they’d had any previous therapeutic […]
How TIP Interrupts PTSD Flashbacks When Nothing Else Helps
On the outside, everything looks normal. You can be sitting in your living room, watching something ordinary on TV, and suddenly your body behaves as if the worst moment of your life is happening all over again. That is the […]
How to Help Clients Build a Life Worth Living
Building a Life Worth Living: The Heart of Emotional Regulation in DBT Every client who walks through your door is chasing the same thing, even if they don’t know it: a life worth living. It’s not about perfection, constant happiness, […]
The Question That Transforms Every Relationship
The Myth of Self-Sacrifice: Why People-Pleasing Damages Relationships It’s easy to believe that being agreeable, accommodating, and self-sacrificing will make your relationships easier. But often, the opposite happens. When we give up our needs to please others, the relationship becomes […]
When You’re Ready, the Right Message Always Finds You
A friend of mine has been trying to get fitter for years. You know the story – the new gym kit, the motivational videos, the fancy equipment that ends up gathering dust. She’s got it all: a Peloton bike, a […]
How to Help Clients Give Themselves Permission to Change
Anyone who’s worked with both children and adults will tell you this: kids change fast, adults change slow. Why Children Transform Faster Than Adults When I work with children, I’m often amazed by how rapidly their emotional state can flip. […]
Why your “fully booked” diary is costing you more than you think
I had coffee with an old friend recently — a therapist I’ve known for years. He won’t appreciate me calling him “old”, but we go way back. Over time, he’s made a huge shift in the way he works. In […]
