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When Relaxation Isn’t Enough

Hypnotherapy training offers those who want to work with clients in a truly magical way, the ability to do so. Using hypnotherapy, we can help others overcome a vast array of problems with ease and speed. In this world, which is becoming increasingly fueled by stress, anxiety and depression, more people will be turning to… READ MORE

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Tuning into Your Funny Feeling

If you’re someone who is new to (for example) NLP, it takes a while to begin trusting your gut feeling; or to tune into it; or to realise that you even have one. It takes time because you need to let your confidence in yourself and your methods develop, but most of all you need… READ MORE

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When Hypnotherapy is Disempowering

As a hypnotherapist, it is easy to get sidetracked by the suggestions we give, the depth or the trance and the effectiveness of our post hypnotic suggestions. However, just as important as informing the client about what they hypnotherapeutic experience will be like, is to educate them about the role they play in their session… READ MORE

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How to Manage Negative Feedback

We’re very fortunate to be NLPers because there’s a code for conduct when it comes to delivering feedback. It’s called a feedback sandwich and is as follows: What was good What could be even better Overall what was great. The initial ‘what was good’ serves to have the recipient of the feedback relax and open… READ MORE

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NLP – For What Purpose?

I’m interested to hear from you about what NLP does for/means to you. I don’t mean your definition of NLP, I mean on a personal level, what has NLP done for you? For me, I came to know about NLP after seeing someone using it on TV. It seemed so fast and effective that I… READ MORE

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Empathy Without Sympathy – An NLP Practitioners Guide

As hypnotherapists and NLP practitioners, we find ourselves listening to a broad range of challenges that people have experienced in their lives. Our job is to listen, question respectfully and to develop a sense of understanding of their present situation and how they would like it to be, without putting ourselves into their pain (which… READ MORE

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Helping Non-Compliant Clients

Resistance in a client is a sign of lack of rapport. This is one of the presuppositions of NLP and on a recent NLP Practitioner training, one of the delegates questioned if this was always true. “What if you’re doing everything you can as a practitioner and the client just doesn’t want to hear what… READ MORE

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Self-Hypnosis for Healing

Around 10 years ago I fractured my ankle. I was very fortunate to have already qualified as a hypnotherapist when this incident happened because it came in helpful many times throughout the process of my recovery. Firstly, when I was taken to hospital to have the injury set into plaster. The doctor explained that he… READ MORE

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Becoming an Confident NLP Practitioner

Don’t get me wrong, I love hypnotherapy and as a qualification, it’s one that I value the most. However, there are times when hypnosis is just not appropriate or, it may be that the client has yet to learn the skills required to be able to access the deep state of relaxation that would ideally… READ MORE

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Find the Best NLP Training

Ultimately choosing the best NLP training is all about your own personal preferences. In the same way, there are a hundred different ways to cook a spaghetti bolognese and everyone will insist that their own unique recipe is the best one. Think about what is important to you and what you really want to gain… READ MORE

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How to Upset Your Coaching Clients

I am guilty of upsetting my coaching clients on a regular basis. Here is how I do it. Sometimes, clients begin to learn the skills of NLP and not only do they experience the positive change it brings, but they begin to enjoy learning about themselves, their own minds and how they can have better… READ MORE

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You’re Not a Coach Unless You’re Trained in NLP

A few years ago I attended a coaching training programme for companies who could provide coaching to SMEs via a government grant which would pay for the coaching. It would be fair to say that it was pretty poor quality. The day was really about using a tool kit of processes that would help those… READ MORE

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Ethics of a Good NLP Practitioner

When you first start out as a practitioner, you are in some ways privileged as you have a clean slate and can essentially create whatever persona for yourself that you would like to have. The downside is that in the early days, you have not history and as such no credibility. One of the things… READ MORE

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Asking Great Questions Using NLP

One of the key things I have learned from NLP is how to ask great questions that really uncover useful information. There are certain ways of using language that can presuppose lengths of time, energy or other useful measurements. As a general guide though, here are some useful things to know: ‘Why’ questions In NLP… READ MORE

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Using Hypnotic Language on Your Boss

One of the questions I am often asked when people find out that I possess a senior qualification in hypnotherapy practice is “Can you hypnotise anyone, to do anything?” Sadly the answer is no. Not “anyone” and not “anything” but that equally doesn’t mean no one or nothing! So knowing that you have the potential… READ MORE

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Motivation for Exercise When You Hate It

Think about something you absolutely have to do every day. You might not particularly enjoy doing it, but it’s part of your routine such that, if you didn’t do it, it would feel completely wrong to have missed it. For me, that thing is brushing my teeth. I’d really rather proud of my dental hygiene… READ MORE

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How to Complete Your “To Do” List

I’m one of those people who make “to do” lists on a clean piece of paper and ideally with an ink pen. I’m not sure why writing it in ink makes me feel better about it, I think it just shows a greater level of respect towards the things I need to do if the… READ MORE

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Step by Step – Making Goals a Reality

To avoid total overwhelm, whatever the challenge you face, you must take it one step at a time. If you continually look at the bigger picture and overall aim you run the risk of overwhelming yourself into frightened-bunny-in-the-headlights mode. The problem with frightened bunnies in the headlights is that they freeze, making themselves a prime… READ MORE

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Dealing with Disappointment

There are different kinds of disappointment and depending on your own attitude and mindset you may experience the more severe kind more often. There’s the kind of disappointment that has you think “wow that’s really disappointing” and gives you a sinking feeling in your tummy. Then there’s the kind that punches you in the stomach… READ MORE

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Thinking Sideways

I recently saw a programme with Peter Jones – The tall one from Dragons Den – and he was talking to successful entrepreneurs. Interestingly it wasn’t just about how they’d made their millions but a study into what makes them think in the way that they do. One of the entrepreneurs story was very interesting.… READ MORE

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Broken Hearts

I’m writing this article on the advice of Beckiola, the office elf. She thought it would make a good subject as she has recently experienced a relationship break-up. Here are some of the key things to remember and do in break up situations to help you get you through to the other side: Change location.… READ MORE

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Your Future Has Arrived

I was recently speaking for the inner circle group at Unlimited Success. The lovely group of people are supporting each other in achieving their goals. At the end of the session, I had the pleasure to listen in on the “hot seat”. This is when each delegate has the opportunity to talk about a problem… READ MORE

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Hypnotism Techniques You Should Be Happy!

At People Building we teach NLP to those is leadership and management positions and work with teams to improve sales skills. We also offer Neuro-linguistic programming training online and offer courses that answer the question: “Does hypnosis work?” Facebook banter reliably provides me with article based material and this month was no exception! This month,… READ MORE

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Elegant Arguing

I saw a post on Facebook today which made comparison between the amount of money a pensioner receives each week, and the amount of benefits given to an illegal immigrant each week. Now don’t freak out, I’m not about to start getting political. But there was something about the argument that was put forward in… READ MORE

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Priorities

Priorities I was once working with a client who has his own business (several in fact) has a family and is also part of a project in the local community. He came to see me because he was in a state of absolute overwhelm. His employees had lost focus, his wife was completely frustrated at… READ MORE

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Tips to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

A great deal of anxiety that human beings experience is illogical and even for the patient who realises that fact consciously, it isn’t enough to cause it to stop. Enough is Enough Essentially the shift in mindset that needs to occur within the patient is one that causes them to decide and truly believe that… READ MORE

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Laying Foundations

When I was younger I used to write poetry (believe it or not) and then as I grew up and grew busy with other things, I stopped. One day I realised I hadn’t written any poetry in ages so thought I’d sit down and put pen to paper. But when I did, I couldn’t find… READ MORE

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A Third of the Way…

I figured to might live into my 90’s and that makes me about a third of the way through my life. There’s actually bits of my life now that happened so long ago, it’s almost like a story about someone I used to know, rather than about me. And I’ve got that thing that happens… READ MORE

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If You Don’t Ask Then You Don’t Get!

I love the whole idea of the phrase ‘If you don’t ask then you don’t get’ as it is literally that simple! In my past experiences there are times when things just seemed to click into place with very little or almost no effort on my behalf what so ever. Until I understood how to… READ MORE

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Words

It’s interesting how our language and words can have such a huge impact. But when you really think about it, words are just labels. Without their meaning they are just a series of letters that go together to make a sound, without the sound they are just shapes and symbols, yet these little insignificant shapes… READ MORE

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Drama

You need drama in your life. You need it because if you do not have it, you’ll go off and unconsciously create it in the worst possible ways. Finding problems that do not exist, manifesting illness, causing rows and arguments. If you do not create your drama in your life that motivates, inspires and drives… READ MORE

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Lack of Rapport

Rapport comes and goes. There’s a misunderstanding that once you have developed it, that’s it. No further rapport building is required and one can simply forget about it. Wrong! Rapport comes and goes. It’s strength increases and decreases dependant on the state of the person you are communicating with, your state, with the topic of… READ MORE

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A Master Practitioner Of Problems

Sometimes overcoming challenges is easy – and sometimes less so. A great strategy for taking control of challenges is to do the absolute opposite of trying to get rid of it and instead study the skills you need and use in order to create it. Forget about getting rid of problems. There is infact a… READ MORE

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The Positives In An Away From

Think positive and always look on the bright side. Focus on what you want. Whatever you think about the universe will send your way. Your thoughts become things. Rubbish. I have consistently focused on a new car (whilst still cherishing the old one for continuing to start each day) for the last 4 years and… READ MORE

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Awakened Trance

I’ve been dabbling a lot more recently with awakened trance. What I mean by this is giving clear instructions and suggestions to clients whilst in a fully awakened but somewhat relaxed state. It has been working extremely well with children. Sometimes using “formal” trance doesn’t work. Especially with children and adults with busy brains that… READ MORE

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Offended

You know I never wanted to become that person that says “There comes a point in life when…” because I heard so many adults say that when I was younger. It was a sure sign that they were old and I was young. The ….’s at the end of the sentence above are space for… READ MORE

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Rewards

These days we are bombarded with rewards. There was a time when rewards were for children and stickers on a star chart but now rewards have crept into the adult world. Sainsbury’s, Tesco’s and Boot’s all reward me for shopping with them. If I buy an offer online, I am sometimes rewarded with a bonus.… READ MORE

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Letting Go and Moving On

Sometimes us human beings are so shaped and influenced by our will and desire to succeed and make good of every situation that life throws at us, we forget that there is a real reward and skill in letting go and moving on. It’s as if letting go and moving on is giving up. And… READ MORE

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Getting Help

I don’t like asking for help. I’ve realised that recently after having problems with my next door neighbour. My challenge around asking for help (I have psycho-analysed) has something to do with me being: a)    Independent from a young age b)   A bit shy sometimes (yes me!) c)    A dislike of admitting I can’t do… READ MORE

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Coping with Grief

Wikipedia states that: Grief is a multi-faceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioural, social, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement often refers to the… READ MORE

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