To avoid total overwhelm, whatever the challenge you face, you must take it one step at a time.
If you continually look at the bigger picture and overall aim you run the risk of overwhelming yourself into frightened-bunny-in-the-headlights mode. The problem with frightened bunnies in the headlights is that they freeze, making themselves a prime target for disaster.
If your goal is to learn Japanese, first start to whet your appetite of enthusiasm by going to Japan or at the very least a Japanese restaurant. It’ll be far easier to engage in the language if you first familiarise yourself with the culture and if you begin to build a real interest and desire.
Think about how babies learn about the world. They have an unbridled curiosity and the often learn through enjoyment or play. It makes their learning easy and natural and takes the stress out of it. Maybe grown ups should be the same.
Another important step babies follow is that of observation. They spend a great deal of time watching others do the tasks they want to emulate.
In NLP training that would be part of our modelling process to achieve success. How about modelling the curiosity of a baby before modelling the success of someone else though? That way you can set about your task with curiosity and enthusiasm as well as the genuine need to complete the task.
Another driver in moving from one step to the next is the degree of responsibility you take in moving forward. Of course mentors and coaches are important, a support network can really give you motivation too. But what is essential is that each step is a step you are willing to take entirely alone if necessary and that you, above all else want to take that step to move you closer to the overall goal even if it is not the most enjoyable part of the process.
The best part is then looking back on the steps you have already taken. Having taken your task one step at a time it’s easy to be tricked into thinking that progress has been limited. But each one of those tiny steps adds to the next and progress is usually occurring just at the point where you start to question it.
By Gemma Bailey
Gemma Bailey is the director of People Building, an NLP and hypnotherapy training company offering free NLP resources such as free NLP PDF’s, NLP podcasts and hypnotherapy courses that answer the question: “Does hypnosis work?!”
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